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Hello all! So this is what's going on. I am still technically transitioning but I am planning on having my friend, who works at a natural hair salon, cut off the rest of the relaxer tomorrow. I am soooo ready to have natural hair and I have been cutting off the ends all week because I am super excited to have all my curls free. I am not going to miss my hair at all because I am IN LOVE with my hair!! I might even say that I'm obsessed to a point. Lol.

But I'm writing this journal today because I am really not getting the support that I thought I would get for going natural. First of all, my mom was telling someone how much she didn't like my hair the other day and that hurt my feelings because I think my hair is beautiful and I honestly believed that if I thought I looked good, everyone else would too. But she never seems satisfied with how I style my hair. Since I don't live at home (I'm in school right now) it doesn't really matter what she says because I'm doing what's best for me. But on the other hand, you want the people you love to be excited when you are. I really thought that with all the styles I have been trying and experimenting with, everyone would love my hair as much as I do. Apparently I was mistaken.

Then there are just people that make comments or even suggestions about what I should do with my hair as if it concerns them and how they live their life. They'll say "Oh you should just braid this part and then take it out" or they'll say "Man when you finally straighten your hair it will be so long and pretty" and I'm sitting there thinking that my hair was already beautiful!! God made my hair this way, He made your hair this way. Why are you so ashamed of someone wearing their natural texture? It really bothers me when people think like that because having natural hair should not be something that is a problem. It is gorgeous and I believe that I am rocking it to the max!

However, right now I am just getting questions about why I decided to go natural and people are asking me why I don't just press it. And I feel like I do not need to explain myself to them on some level. I mean I do want them to know why I'm doing it but I don't think I should have to tell them whey before it's okay that my natural hair is out. I mean there are so many reason why I'm going natural:
1. I don't think straight hair is attractive anymore
2. my relaxed hair was limp and lifeless and unhealthy
3. natural hair is soooo versatile and sexy and beautiful and exciting
4. I want my hair to be as healthy as possible
5. it makes me feel beautiful to finally be able to embrace a part of me that was neglected for so long
6. natural hair allows me to express my creativity and my character so much more than relaxed hair
7. I have been inspired by so many natural divas that are looking FIERCE with their curls and napps in all their glory

And I'm sure I could think of some more reasons too! I just wish it wasn't so hard for people to see the beauty in what I'm doing. For some reason all they see is something different, and not in a good way. I can't understand why they don't see what we can all easily see - amazing hair!!

Today might have just been one of the hard days to get through but I'm still going strong and I am still 100% sure of my decision to be natural! There is so way I'll be slapping a perm in this head because I am way too much in love with my hair. That's why I'm so glad to be encouraged and uplifted by the lovely natural ladies here on fotki : )

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